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A Phone Call From My Husband!
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I just got off the phone with my husband, Ian, who is on his way back from New York tonight. He really wanted me to go with him to this event but I just knew I had so much on my plate today that I just couldn’t and I felt badly.

We used to go to everything together before I started Moms on the Move when the kids were younger and were in bed by 8pm.

We started our company, Swain Tours together almost 20 years ago, we worked side by side from the time we brought our first child over from Australia in 1987. We had lunch together most days, worked on brochures and would strategize when the kids went to sleep. In fact, I literally had my 3rd and 4th baby on Friday and would be back in the office with my child on the following Monday because, as every mom knows, you just have to do what you have to do! It was our business and there was nobody to fill in for me at the time.

It was a difficult transition when I felt this unexplainable pull that I was supposed to do this work I do now. Ian felt I was moving in the right direction too but we also knew that
our lunches together, visits to each others office 20 times a day and attending events like this evening side by side would diminish.

So, just now, he just told me on the phone that he shared our “love story” to the group to which he spoke tonight; how we met in New York, and how much he appreciates what I am trying to do for mothers. So, I was there in a big way, anyway. I find I do the same thing too when he is not with me as well.

I always tell people that God gave me such a wonderful husband because he knew what I was going to have to go through to get my task done would be so difficult.

Believe me, there have been times when we have argued about the lack of attention we are getting from each other because of our work…not to mention four teenagers in the house, but nothing that ever lasted into the next day.

People always ask us how we are still so in love after 21 years of marriage and I believe all those reasons we hear all the time about understanding, communication, sacrifice..etc.

One big thing I’m sure is that Ian has pretty much agreed with my childrearing decisions and I pretty much agreed with his financial decision for the family (even though we are very much aware of both) which I’m sure, made for a lot less tension.

But the biggest thing for me is that he never tried to stop me from growing and changing and becoming my next self.

If men would just allow their wives and partners to pursue their dreams and even allow some of the family savings to develop these dreams, they would be surprised how loving their relationship could be as the children grow and the years pass.

Our love continues to grow as the years pass!

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