When a couple gets married it's is one of the happiest days of their lives. You feel like everything will be great and wonderful and the love for each other will never end.  

The reality is that as time goes on things are not the same. You realize that being married takes work, sometimes hard work. Next thing you know your spouse tells you they want a divorce. You did not see this coming and all you care about now is how to stop thedivorce.

Stopping the divorce will not be easy but it is possible in most instances. What you must do is convince your spouse that they should give the marriage another chance. This approach seems to make sense.

Only thing is that taking this approach really does not work like you think it would. The decision has already been made by your spouse to go through with a divorce, so the more you talk about trying it again the more they will back away from you.

A better approach would be to accept that they are going on with the divorce. Don't act like they will not go through with it because the two of you can fix things. Stay calm and tell them that you do not want a divorce but you understand that your marriage has not been going as good as it could have.

Be understanding of your spouse's feelings and listen to what they say to you. Try not to get angry, as hard as it may be, and don't try to control them with your emotions. What you want to do is open up a line of communication.

If you try to convince them of anything at this time they will know you are trying to stop them divorcing you. It's true that is what your goal is, but you do not want them to know what you are up to.

Take time to understand what your spouse is thinking. Try to comprehend their reason for wanting a divorce and agree with them. Agreeing with them will put them more at ease by showing them you care about their concerns.

Just this alone may be enough for them to think about what they are doing. If this does not work there are some other things you can try. As long as the divorce papers have not been filed your chances are still good.

 Once the two of you have talked over things, you must give your spouse time to think it over. Leave them alone and don't ask them if they have been thinking it over. If they still decide to go through with it, propose that the two of you could try a separation first, this may give them more time to think about their decision.

Written By: Sofia Ryan