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People Are Our Mirrors
People are our mirrors. This perspective can be an incredible eye-opener when growing or even just living and being in all types of relationships – friends, family, loves. This perspective gives you the opportunity to become more and more aware of how the people that surround you are reflections of different aspects of yourself.
How does this help you? It can open your eyes to how you may be acting in the present, how you want to be and how you don't want to be, as well as aspects of yourself that you may want to AMP up or let go of in order to reach a happy and fulfilling place.
Be confident when you look at yourself, don't be afraid of what you might see or find. it's an opportunity for you to make big moves and have major "A'HA" moments.
Sometimes I see things that I love in others that I hope I embody in some way. When you see something you like in someone else, it means that you have it in you too and perhaps you just wish it showed through more often than not. This motivates you to bring it out those aspects more and more.
There are other times however, when I see things in others or how others are or act, that bother me. This part really made me think. I wondered, "Well if the way that person is or is acting, bothers me so much, then I must do that too, in some way, maybe not the way they do it, but if i am attracting it to myself then I'm doing it in some way, shape, or form to myself or others."
At first this made me feel sort of bad about myself, I thought, "Wow, I didn't realize I may affect people in that way, I didn't know I was like that sometimes, I feel like a bad person, I know better than that!" Lots of these nice little statements filled my mind and man, oh man did it feel overwhelming, and not in a good way.
This instant self-deprecation can be natural for a lot of us, especially those that are way hard on themselves and have very high-expectations of themselves – can you relate?
We may have negative thoughts about ourselves, but that does not make them true or define who we are. The emotion felt from a negative thought you think about yourself, may be real for you, and this may convince you that it's true, but it's not necessarily the truth. That little voice is your Ego, a part of you whose main goal is to keep you in a place of fear and lack. It makes you always fear that you aren't good enough and feel that you need more things to make you happy. But the truth is that you ARE good enough, right now, and you don't need anything outside of you to make you whole because you were born with everything you need, all inside of you.
We actually teach others how to treat us. When we treat ourselves with respect, others will treat us with respect. It is equally important to treat others with respect because they are apart of you. We're all in this together- this thing called life :-)
Sometimes we don't even realize how we affect someone and we don't even realize how people affect us. So, noticing how some of our relationships are acting as a mirror for us can be really helpful for us to live with more awareness.
You are growing, learning and evolving beautifully into the person you came here to be, and with grow comes some discomfort and experiences that don't make you feel so hot – they may make you feel awful. The end result, however, when you stick it out, have faith, pray for help, and get through it, the rainbow after the storm, is always worth it. From this you will reach a higher level of awareness and fulfillment - they don't call them growing pains for nothin'!
Even though your Ego never speaks the truth, it can instigate you to shift and grow for the better.
We are all constantly learning new things about ourselves and the people around us. There will be times when we will react or act in ways that will make us look back and say "Why did I do that?" or "I should have thought that through first," but hey, we're human and so we have these moments that don't bring out our best selves, to give us an opportunity to notice what we don't like, notice that we have a choice as to how to be, and realize that we have a choice and can react or respond differently in the present and future. We always have a choice and we have our own intuition - follow it.
The more I opened up to and accepted the idea that people around me reflected me in some ways, the more I became aware of the things I wanted to adjust and the things i wanted to enhance within myself. Relationships are incredible teachers!
Just remember, don't judge yourself too harshly if you see things you don't like within yourself, habits or belief systems you would like to grow out of. Avoid the over-exaggeration of the "I should know better's!," and the "I can't believe I did that again's!" That language only hurts you even more. It's not productive. Nine times out of ten, you DO know better, but don't beat yourself about it. You were doing the best you could at that time with what you had. The most important and necessary thing is to show yourself that you know better by making a different choice the next time, in the present or future. All we really have is right now. Live what you know deep down.
FORGIVE YOURSELF and forgive those involved and know that we've all been there or we'll all be there at some point. Keep pushing yourself to let go of reactions or belief systems that do not reflect your best self. Always aim to be your best self. Don't just throw your hands up in the air and say "Well I'm human so I'm off the hook for everything I say and do!" No. It is important to take responsibility for ourselves, apologize when necessary, stand our ground when necessary, be confident and bold, and make changes when necessary.
Always do and say things from your heart, as best you can. Always from your heart. Mean what you say and say what you mean. ( And when I say "say" I'm talking actions too )
Trust yourself because you DO know what's best for you. Think about what's best for you. Always be kind to yourself and others, think before you speak, and treat others the way you would want to be treated, after all they're reflecting you and by treating yourself with respect, you teach others to treat YOU with respect.
Reflecting lots of love back to you!
Know Your Value: Here's another great blog about mirrors! http://thedailylove.com/know-your-value/
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